Ms. Yoko Ramos

Funny how people are so fuzzy about titles.  Like Dr. for doctors, Atty. for lawyers, Engr, Arch. et al.  Here in Japan, artist, doctors, teachers, experts, or anybody who has an expertise on something is called a Sensei. 

When I was a small girl, my grandfather wanted me to be a doctor or a lawyer so I can be addressed as such, I do not believe in titles that you attach in your name.  For me, if you are a good and kind hearted person you will be remembered and loved by your name and not the title that you have. 

Same goes for women.  Women are suppossed to change their maiden name when they get married and follow her husband's name. (Why do men get to keep their name?)  I, for one, have a predicament.  I am not a titled person.  When I was in the government, I was addressed as Miss or Director, but that is not my predicament -- it's the last name.

I have a unique name Yoko (I have to thank my Mom and Dad for that, four letters and I did not have a hard time writing it back then).  Family and friends alike had a hard time trying to figure out my last name.  This is especially true in family get together or meetings.  You see, I was married then separated then annulled.  For a time I was single then I tied the knot.  So, now you can more or less understand the imbroglio.  Too much confusion.

Once, I was being introduced by Justice RCC to one of his collegue, he said " This is Director Yoko XXXX" He uttered the last name of my ex-husband (I felt my cheeks flush) so I corrected him saying my maiden name XXX.  He goes to continue "She is engaged to one of our brod, XXXX --ahhh-- how do you say his last name?"

I married this man with his unique last name -- amusing, isn't it?  The guy is just irresistable.  I love him and married him because of his persona, he is he -- and not his last name that is hard to remember -- even pronounce.